ArchiveNovember 2016

My Boyfriend Is Too Tired for Sex

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Dear Walter:  Is my boyfriend cheating if he’s a male prostitute? We have been dating for three months. He claims he’s only having sex with clients. He says that he doesn’t want to have sex with me because he’s too tired or has to work. He doesn’t want to treat me like a client.  -Dating A Prostitute Dear Dating a Prostitute: Your poor boyfriend engaging in the world’s...

The Agony and Ecstasy of Interracial Sex

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Is It Wrong to Kiss Someone’s Boyfriend?

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Who said New Yorkers aren’t friendly? Drunken nights could led to deep kisses, missed signals, and white pills. After walking a couple of blocks from the club I ran into an old coworker.  Rod 2.0 Sebastian exited the train station, equipped with a Vicodin and a smile. He was 6ft tall and in his mid-30’s. He greeted me with a kiss on the lips. He was drunk and so was I— so I let...

This Is an Open Letter to the New Romantics

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This is an open letter to the lovers, the dreamers, the talented, the unappreciated, the used, the hopeless romantics—to me.  Photo:  High Mami Traveling through an underground network of tunnels on trains, dreaming of being on planes. Sometimes I wish I had it easy. I could be on a back seat, donning a blonde wig doing what grown folks do when bills are due.  Oh, the glamorous...

He Likes to Scream, Shout and Have Sex on the Down Low

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Dear Walter: I only fuck around with dl guys. We dated for almost a year and I broke up with him. When we got back together all he wanted was sex. A complete asshole! One night he screamed at me, flipped out for no reason. Then he broke up with me. What should I do? -Anonymous 27-year-old Dear Anonymous 27-year-old, I used to have a monthly diet of DL men in my 20s. They caused me nothing but...

Can Rejecting Sex Ruin a Relationship?

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My sex life and relationships intercepted at the corner of emotionally unavailable and mentally unstable—an amalgam of progress and precariousness. I engaged in courtships like a “desperate, single woman” trying to avoid dying alone. Ok, I admit that sounds melancholic. Photo by Kevin Slack But I’m like an alcoholic during happy hour. Discounts, specials, and sales gave me a cocaine high at the...

I Want to Fuck Someone New

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It’s cuffing season, now is time to find a man. Winter is coming! You get extra points if you’re within a five block radius. The cuddle buddy, the fuck buddy, the weed man, the DVD man, whatever you want to call him—you know when you find him.  I found mine for the night. His name was Daniel. He was handsome and equipped with a magical penis that grew at night like Jack in the Beanstalk. Or...

There Is No Such Thing As Friendly Fire

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Keep your man away from your friends. It infuriated me to see my friend, Shawn, be a better friend to my boyfriend than to me. Shawn was too available. He was like Herpes, appearing unexpected in the middle of the night in intimate areas. A disease so gross that you’ll think twice before putting that penis in your mouth.  In a lifestyle where you are more committed to a cup of coffee...

What It’s like to Have Casual Sex?

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All around me, people are having sex:  It can be great and not so great. Sex with an ex or Rex, a complete stranger, can be good and plenty. If “sexaholics” are the new “shopaholics,” then casual sex is the new black. Is casual sex something to try on or should it be left hanging in the sale section? Some people cannot live without sex. Some need to take their potential trysts from point A...

Is it Wrong That I Want Sex on Thanksgiving?

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In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I spent three hours arguing with my ex before finally boarding the Megabus. My bitter-sweet November warranted a trip to our Nation’s Capitol where a feast awaited with my family far away from the drama in the melting pot. I reached my family’s house just in time for dinner. I was thankful for that since I hated picked over food. Dinner was delicious, although it...

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