ArchiveJanuary 2017

What Came First the Chicken or the Sex?

W

Second dates were like the second mistakes that dictated your relationship’s fate. I wrote about our first date in, My First Date with a Straight Man.   Source I met with Bobby deep in the heart of the West Village on date night. We arrived at Zucca, an Italian restaurant, with decent food and an even better happy hour. I needed the perfect $4 drink to go with my $400 dollar shoes. “Just...

On Not Fucking on the First Date

O

Sex on the first date may be taboo to those with archaic mating rituals. I should make a move but I won’t like Monica. Getting down on the first night is a matter of principles. Regardless of the sexual dalliances, I was excited to get back in the game. Here’s hoping to not fucking on the first date. First dates were like job interviews where cocktails and conversation integrated on a plate...

Did You Just Delete Me on Social Media?

D

Deleting someone on social media is the new fuck you. The first time I was deleted on Facebook and cared, was after a violent altercation with an ex after leaving the club. We fought in the back of the cab, and I was subsequently kicked out.  Yes, he kicked me so hard I hit the payment, sliding down that slushy street of New York City in my new leather jacket as cars zipped by.  How...

Would You Date or Have Sex With a Trump Supporter?

W

On the day of President Donald Trump’s inauguration—I felt a mixture of dread and disappointment. I can no longer disavow his claim to the highest seat in the land. But I can choose to reject his supporters in the bedroom.  I connected with Hector on Jack’d while he was in DC for the weekend. He lived in The Bronx. From partying in Philly to bowling in Boston, he traveled each weekend...

Fucking and Masquerading as a Masculine Bottom

F

Artwork by Anthony Gonzales I went deep undercover to experience what it’s like fucking as a masculine bottom. I searched on Adam4Adam like I was looking for someone to pay my bills. And with the inauguration upon us, I lusted for someone to stuff my ballot box.  We exchanged 60 messages punctuating photos and preferences. His 9.5-inch penis titillated me. His dick looked like a Snickers...

What It’s Like to Restart a Retro Relationship?

W

Johnny and I resurrected a relationship that was born to die. Nostalgia was like a retro drug that took you higher at a fraction of the cost. I originally wrote about this in two parts: here and here.  I haven’t seen him in the three years I lived in New York.  I remembered us dancing to Cher at the Spanish restaurant in my apartment building. If I could turn back time. Later, I...

How Many Dicks Do You Have to Suck to Get to Your Happy Ending?

H

Roses are red, violets aren’t free.  And sucking dick will cost you too.  Not even Adele could save us. I was in an oral relationship filled with dick sucking, heavy kissing, day drinking and shit talking. I lost my voice when he walked out on me. I remember seeing the snow as he walked down 4th Avenue, shivering in a pilled wool coat, and that plaid scarf I hated.  Recounting a...

He Sucked the Life Out of Me

H

Have you ever had a blow job that changed your life? Sucking off strangers could lead to self-discovery. I’m not the sucker in this story. But I wanted more anyway.  We talked on Jack’d for a couple of weeks. He had a blank profile but a host of writing projects in the pipeline. So, one Friday night I stopped writing to discuss the writer’s life. I chose a platonic path, and I didn’t even...

Instant Relationships Are For Poor People

I

Would you date someone long-distance from Jamaica? Or marry him so he could get a green card? I’ve received an influx of gay Jamaicans hitting me up on FaceBook for sex, relationships, and even marriage.  “I’m looking for a relationship,” he said. “With me?” “Yes, I think we can be good together.” Just what I wanted to hear two minutes in our conversation.  Another Jamaican insisted we...

What It’s Like to Have Sex With Military Men?

W

My search for love had me looking for a soldier like Destiny’s Child. Don’t ask and don’t tell—I needed a few good men.   Military men are at the height of masculinity. Something about going to war or returning home with you limbs and mind intact make you want to drop your panties. Whether you are saving private Ryan or shaving Ryan’s privates, I had a few experiences with men in...

Recent Posts