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I Met 4 Gay Porn Stars and This Is What Happened

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In honor of Pornhub’s recent 10th birthday—I wrote about meeting four gay porn stars:  Hot Rod, Arquez, Ace Rockwood, and Red.  Here’s what they were like off camera.  1. Hot Rod  I met Hot Rod on a hot night at a little New York club called Secrets. I was introduced through a promoter boyfriend who promoted our relationship to anyone in the New York Tristate area. He towered...

Stealthing Is Rape with a Smile

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Artwork by Anthony Gonzales  Some men are getting creative with consent.  They call it stealthing. It’s when the person slips off the condom mid-coital and sneaks the penis in raw. This is fucked up. And violators should be prosecuted. But it’s not illegal—yet.  It’s hard to trust anyone when engaged in the world’s oldest act. Putting our bodies on the line because we are...

Writing About My Sex Life Complicated My Relationship

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I write about sex for a living. I dissected whole relationships in columns after the fucking or relationship dissolved.  Punctuating my private thoughts with private parts in the internet age made everything public. What happens when you get caught writing about your current relationship?  Once while in bed, I used his iPad to promote my site on Facebook. “Baby, get the food before it...

My First Date with a Straight Man

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I’m so fancy on a first date.  I love the ritual of selecting my best clothes to make a potential love connection. I put the art in artificial.  Gay dating is like a meat market where you meet men in bars—home to yesterday’s men past their shelf life. You hope to make plans for something more than a hookup.  We met at The Hanger on Christopher Street. Bobby approached...

Dating and Dialing a Phone Sex Operator

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I dated this guy for a month and I still haven’t met him yet. We talked, texted and had phone sex.  We connected on Jack’d, my go to dating app. We swapped messages, phone numbers, photos and videos almost immediately. If you have been dating as long as I have, you learned to streamline the process.  The next day, I learned through texting that he totaled his Mercedes by crashing...

A Good Man Is Hard to Find

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I meandered up and down Christopher Street like a transsexual searching for trade. After a couple of cocktails, I began counting couples.  Desperate times turned me into a desperate housewife—sans the husband. I made a left turn looking for the right street and ran straight into Bryant on the corner of Sixth Ave and Christopher Street. We met, a few months ago, outside of Secrets in the...

Should You Have Sex With Your Friends?

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It took a real friend to suck your dick and expected nothing in return. It also helped if that friend were a slut, so you’ll learn something. Should friends let friends perform fellatio on each other?  Photo:  Kevin Slack Timmy and I drank red wine out of a McDonald’s cup. It was Saturday night. We went to Someplace Else, a DC dive bar. With five people present, I rather have gone...

7 Minutes of Sex and the Emerald City

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A girl in ruby slippers once said, “There’s no place like home.” Love can lead you to Oz and back without three clicks of a heel. Bobby and I finally had sex.  We made plans for a candlelight dinner. We settled for a candle and air-conditioning. He arrived at my place 30 minutes later in his father’s truck, wearing black shorts and a uniform top. How romantic?  “You want me to...

I Called Him Mr. President

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One night I met a politico in a bar, who stood out like a homeless woman wearing lipstick. But not as tragic and wore a gray suit. “Don’t I know you?” I asked. I know it is a line older than Bernie Sanders. “No, I don’t think so. I’m out of town on business.” He offered me a drink. I saw the gray suit and thought Grey Goose. One drink later, I called him Mr. President. I could have danced all...

Saying I love You Drunk in a Bathroom Stall

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